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Diana’s Friendship Tips
The following list was made by a friend of mine who has been
dealing with breast cancer. When I found out that another
friend of mine, Mary, had breast cancer, I asked Diana for a
list of ideas for things that I could do that would truly be
helpful and/or supportive. I hope you can use some of them
and share them with others. —
Carolyn
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Go with her to
treatment. Maybe rent a movie to watch with her.
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Try on wigs with her. Tell her what you really
think.
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Watch for cute hats -- they're hard to find that
cover and fit well. Scarves, too (but not slippery
fabrics).
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Take her some meals over the
first
2 or 3 days after treatment.
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Take her kids out.
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Offer to grocery shop -- it is so hard when you are
nauseated.
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If she looks good, tell her. It really helps.
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E-mail a joke a day.
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Ask specific questions, not just “how are you?”
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Cry if you feel like it; it shows you really care.
It’s okay to tell her if you’re worried, too.
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Put her on a prayer chain
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Keep her in your prayers.
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Offer to make beds or change bedding.
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Plant some flowers for her.
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Anything that would make you feel good would work
for her too.
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If she needs to get a breast prosthesis, go with
her. They have special swimsuits, too.
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Organize window washing.
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If she doesn’t have a journal, give her one. It
helps to put some things and thoughts in writing.
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Make sure her husband has someone to talk to.
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Arrange for some cleaning help for a day.
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Find a drop-off laundry.
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Hug her every time you see her.
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